Rules to Get Back in the Datng Game

by Sheena Clark, DIVA Lounge Editor

I understand, its chaos out there and getting back on the scene is tough. If you are re-entering the dating world after a long vacation, here are several rules to follow in order to avoid the losers and leaches I encountered and find Mr. Right.

Rule # 1: Make sure he is able to carry on a conversation. "That’s nice" and "Hmm…" don’t count.

Everyone knows that a conversation requires two people. Even if you are the most skilled conversationalist, a date won’t work if your date has nothing to say. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. You might as well find out right from the jump whether or not this will be a problem.

Rule #2: Make sure he is unattached. That means wives and not so ex-girlfriends.

Wives are not classified as "ex" until the ink on the divorce paper is dry. Ex-girlfriends are also a problem if your intended has plans to win her back. Stick with single guys. SINGLE!!! You’ll be very happy and less stressed in the end.

Rule #3: Do not date younger guys. They aren’t grown up enough for a relationship.

Take it from Steve Harvey's new book, younger guys may look nice and have firm bodies. But, a firm body does not get a commitment and he is sowing his wild oats. Although single men in their thirties are hard to come by, avoid younger men at all costs, unless of course, you are sowing on your own.... LOL!!!!!!!!!!

Rule #4: Ask the right questions. There are many frogs among the princes.

Stop trying to be nice to keep him and get right into the nitty gritty, as grandma use to say. Plain questions will get you plain answers and you are no closer to the answer you want to hear. Don't be afraid to ask and he surely shouldn't be afraid to answer them especially if he's serious about getting to know you.

Dating is like exercising. It’s painful. It’s boring. It makes you sweat. You really don’t want to do it but force yourself to do it unless motivated. Like exercise, dating can have its’ rewards. If you keep it simple, you just might end up with a healthy, strong relationship that other people admire